Wellness + Wisdom Episode 366
Director of The Family Constellation Institute, The Inherited Trauma Institute and The Hellinger Institute of Northern California, and Author of It Didn't Start with You, Mark Wolynn, returns to share the latest science and cutting edge research on healing generational trauma, how his Bridging Question helps people identify non-verbal trauma language, the map to find your unique core wound, and how to heal a family relationship without doing it in person.
Discover how you can cultivate awareness and embody the healing necessary to, once and for all, let go of inherited anxiety, pain, fear, and persistent mystery conditions.
[click_to_tweet tweet=”‘That which we ignore really never goes away. Family trauma that isn't healed submerges in our psyche and soma to reemerge as chronic pain or disease or behaviors we can't explain.' – @MarkWolynn ” quote=”‘That which we ignore really never goes away. Family trauma that isn't healed submerges in our psyche and soma to reemerge as chronic pain or disease or behaviors we can't explain.' – @MarkWolynn “]
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Listen To Episode 366 As Mark Wolynn Uncovers:
[1:30] Exploring Inherited Family Trauma
- Mark Wolynn
- Healing Trauma | The “INCUBATOR” Wound In Relationship
- It Didn't Start With You
- The Family Constellation Institute
- The Inherited Trauma Institute
- The Hellinger Institute of Northern California
- ION*Biome
- 302 Mark Groves
- 277 Christine Hassler
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Common examples of inherited family trauma that can be passed on for generations.
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The biological evidence that a traumatic event can break the heart of the family and those feelings, sensations, behaviors, and stress response can then be passed down.
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Examples of passed down inherited trauma that is expressed in physical sensations.
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Why our search for a quick fix or magic pill holds us back from doing the real inner work and looking at the thoughts, feelings, and beliefs we’ve inherited.
[14:30] The Bridging Question
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What the Bridging Question he asks is that helps people with persistent, attached trauma and why it’s a unique question for everyone.
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How he came up with the Bridging Question that is in his book, It Didn't Start with You, and how people can decipher their unique question to ask about their past.
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Unpacking our non-verbal trauma language that shows up in sensations, behaviors, and physical feelings that arise that reflect a situation that’s already happened in the family.
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How non-verbal trauma language is mirrored in our relationship struggles, who we choose, the type of relationships we have, and even how we view money and success.
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Why some people manifest inherited family trauma even greater than other people.
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Why it’s not a bad thing if we keep repeating these cycles because it’s just an invitation for us to further explore them.
[21:00] A Map To Your Unique Core Wound
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Diving into the map of words that he has in his book, It Didn't Start with You, to help guide you to your unique core wound.
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The process he went through to write the book in 9 years as he was open to receive, explore, and download this information and experience helping others heal.
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Why he doesn’t believe we own this information about the human consciousness but it just flows to us when we’re open to receiving it.
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What guidance Spirit can offer us when we suffer so that we can hold our wisdom in an authentic way like when Mark lost his eyesight.
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How similar events to COVID-19 such as the bubonic plagues, cholera epidemics, Spanish Flu, and diseases that killed Native Americans when Europeans first came to what is now the USA and how that impacted our family lines.
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The bigger traumas we have to consider such as when a family member dies or when somebody greatly suffers.
[28:30] Proactively Embodying Healing Now During COVID-19
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Why it’s so important to use this time during COVID-19 and lockdown to do the inner work.
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What we can do to become more comfortable with the uncomfortable sensations in our body during the inner work process.
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Why what has activated our stress response is not important in the grand scheme of things; what matters is that we attend to it.
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Unpacking why a break in the attachment with our mother or inherited breaks is what leads to our isolation, distancing ourselves, and emotional mask-wearing.
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How our parents’ relationships with their mothers also affect us and our attachment with them.
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Exploring whether inherited trauma and what type of it depends on gender and how it’s transferred by sperm or egg.
- Early Life Stress in Both Mice and Men Reduces the Levels of Same Sperm miRNAs Implicated in the Transmission of Stress Induced Phenotypes Across Generations
[36:00] Reversing Inherited Family Trauma
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The latest research on how inherited family trauma can be reversed in mice by exposing them to positive experiences.
- Isabelle Mansuy – Laboratory of Neuroepigenetics at the University of Zurich
- Fear Of A Smell Can Be Passed Down Several Generations
- Halting Legacies of Trauma | Brian Dias | TEDxEmory
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How we as humans can also heal by exposing ourselves to positive experiences and calm our brain’s stress response.
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Isabel Mansuy’s research on Pakistani orphans and survivors of the Nice, France attack in 2015 during which she both found correlations in the victims' blood biomarkers with that of her lab mice.
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What steps we can take to bridge the gap between awareness and forgiveness.
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Unpacking the importance of not rejecting or excluding the members of our family even though they were alcoholics, abusive, etc.
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How we extract certain partners when we accept or reject specific human behaviors.
[47:00] Healing Your Relationship With A Parent
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Exercises you can do at home on your own to help you heal a relationship with a parent before working with them on it in real life.
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The importance of attunement beginning in the uterus and how to make that bond stronger throughout your life with compassion.
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What to do if a family member is refusing to work with you to heal your broken relationship.
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How we can do the work to heal the relationship without taking it so personally but looking beyond at your parent's history.
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What significant health issues can happen if you have a broken relationship with a parent.
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Inner work practices to decipher whether what you're feeling is true or how to take advice from other people.
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What it means to actually do the work for the right vs wrong reasons.
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How to feel the sensations of the inner practice both physically and viscerally instead of attaching ourselves to the outcome of the work.
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What he did to actually heal his own vision by healing his relationship with his mom.
[1:00:00] The Language We Create When Trauma Happens
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Exploring the biology and psychology of specific language used to heal trauma.
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How trauma language can be either verbal or even non-verbal.
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Why we have to think about what happened right before the trauma began to be felt to help us explore the biological and psychological impact of language.
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His mission to pass on his knowledge not only to his students but to the world in his book, It Didn't Start with You.
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Why the only way to be inclusive as a community is to include the ugly parts inside us that we've excluded.
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How our inhumanity towards others is a mirror of the inhumanity we have towards ourselves.
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The importance of letting go of our inherited family trauma to find peace and clarity on what our life purpose is along this wellness journey.
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Why living life well means giving ourselves the self-care of inner work.
Power Quotes From The Show
[click_to_tweet tweet=”‘What anchors these generational traumas? When the traumas aren't talked about, when the healing isn't complete, when the pain, grief, shame, and embarrassment is so great that people can't look at it.' – @MarkWolynn ” quote=”‘What anchors these generational traumas? When the traumas aren't talked about, when the healing isn't complete, when the pain, grief, shame, and embarrassment is so great that people can't look at it.' – @MarkWolynn “]
The Bridging Question
“The Bridging Question is a tool to help us get to our symptom picture, how we're suffering, and to see if it's connected in the family history. This helps us look at our worst fear and decipher if it actually comes from inherited generational trauma or not. It's a way to outline and distill down to this nugget of gold because it's one of those questions that when we get to the answer, our body starts to reverberate. If someone's greatest fear is that they will harm a child and they ask themselves the question, ‘Have I ever harmed a child?', and the answer is, ‘no.' Then you ask yourself the bridging question, ‘Has anyone in my family ever harmed a child?' The answer to that Bridging Question and how you feel after asking yourself it will help you down the path of healing.” – Mark Wolynn
Verbal vs Nonverbal Generational Trauma Language
“The language such as that in the Bridging Question that we ask to follow and understand our family history doesn't have to be verbal. What I've discovered is there's ‘verbal trauma language' and then there's ‘nonverbal trauma language.' When a trauma language is verbal, that's when we say to ourselves, ‘I'll be abandoned,' or ‘I'll be left behind,' but when it's nonverbal, we have to look for the events in our family history. The physical, the emotional symptoms that show up after something unsettling that happens to us. We look for the fears or anxieties that strike suddenly when we reach a particular age. Often it's the same age as when something happened in the family history.” – Mark Wolynn
What Anchors Generational Traumas?
Links From Today's Show
- Healing Trauma | The “INCUBATOR” Wound In Relationship
- It Didn't Start With You
- The Family Constellation Institute
- The Inherited Trauma Institute
- The Hellinger Institute of Northern California
- ION*Biome
- 302 Mark Groves
- 277 Christine Hassler
- Bruce Lipton
- The Power of Now by Eckhart Tolle
- Early Life Stress in Both Mice and Men Reduces the Levels of Same Sperm miRNAs Implicated in the Transmission of Stress Induced Phenotypes Across Generations
- Isabelle Mansuy – Laboratory of Neuroepigenetics at the University of Zurich
- Fear Of A Smell Can Be Passed Down Several Generations
- Halting Legacies of Trauma | Brian Dias | TEDxEmory
- Three Generations of Family History – Inherited Family Trauma
- Creating an Inherited Family Traumagram
- The Legacy of Unfinished Business
- It Didn't Start With You, Mark Wolynn
- Leave Wellness Force a review on iTunes
- breathwork.io
- M21 Wellness Guide
- Mark Wolynn
About Mark Wolynn
Director of The Family Constellation Institute, The Inherited Trauma Institute and The Hellinger Institute of Northern California, Mark Wolynn is North America’s leader in Inherited Family Trauma. A sought-after lecturer, he leads workshops at hospitals, clinics, conferences, and teaching centers around the world. He has taught at the University of Pittsburgh, the Western Psychiatric Institute, Kripalu, The New York Open Center, The Omega Institute, The California Institute of Integral Studies.
Behind It Didn't Start With You
His book IT DIDN’T START WITH YOU: How Inherited Family Trauma Shapes Who We Are and How to End the Cycle (Viking/Penguin) is the winner of the 2016 Silver Nautilus Book Award in psychology. Mark specializes in working with depression, anxiety, obsessive thoughts, fears, panic disorders, self-injury, chronic pain, and persistent symptoms and conditions.
Mark is a Summa Cum Laude graduate in English and Psychology from the University of Pittsburgh. His graduate work at the University of Pittsburgh and at the University of Arizona was also in English. Mark has published poetry in The New Yorker.
Healing Trauma | The “INCUBATOR” Wound In Relationship
