“How do we have it all? That can only happen when you start letting go of compromises. There's so much of this cultural narrative that these compromises are okay. No! I want to be in a great shape. I want to earn good money. I want to have loving relationships. I want to do incredible work that I love. Why can't I? Who's saying that I can't? When I first started no one was saying, “I can't.” It was me who was saying it. I just need to be able to change what that narrative is.” – Christopher Dufey
Wellness + Wisdom Episode 552
Christopher Dufey, entrepreneur and speaker, joins Josh Trent on the Wellness + Wisdom podcast episode 552 to share with you what it takes to have it all and create the life you want, and what steps to take to accomplish your dreams.
What does it take to live your dream life and have it all?
This episode is a simple guide that will help you understand how to make your dreams come true without compromising other areas of your life.
Listen To Episode 552 As Christopher Dufey Uncovers:
[01:30] What It's Really Like To Finally Have It All
- Christopher Dufey
- Why he had a strong sense of unworthiness.
- 512 Alison Armstrong: Unconscious Emasculation, What Women Don’t Understand About Men + How To Get The Love You Want
- 369 Paul Chek | All Is God: Three Part Series
- What it means to have it all.
- Josh's intense experience with ayahuasca in Costa Rica and what it taught him.
- 438 Justin Donald | Why Wellness Is A Pentagon: The Art of Financial Intelligence & Lifestyle Investing
- How his old coaching company felt out of alignment and so he sold it.
- Mimetic theory
[28:50] How to Create The Life You Want
- 386 Mark Groves | Create More Love: How To Deal w/ Breakups, Boundaries, & Beyond
- How Josh talks to his inner child.
- Your past led you exactly where you're supposed to be.
- 482 Dave Asprey | Advanced Biohacking For Body Mind & Spirit: How To Train A Healthy Brain, Boost Your Flow State + Remove False Beliefs
- 311 Mark Wolynn | It Didn’t Start With You: Ending The Cycle of Inherited Trauma
- Chris' experience with the birth of his children.
- 528 Vanessa Lambert | Clear Karma, Find Dharma: The Healing Power of Kundalini Yoga + Akashic Records
- The journey to self-love and how to flip the switch to take actions that serve you the most.
- Why values and virtues are the key to having it all.
- How to manage your time, energy, and resources to have it all.
- On Bullshit by Harry Frankfurt
[54:50] The Best Business Tips from Christopher Dufey
- How business coaching helps companies build revenue.
- Why you should choose one method to drive traffic, one method to build a list, one way of selling, one thing that you sell, and do it for one year to succeed.
- The Brain Always Wins: Improving Your Life Through Better Brain Management by John Sullivan
- 435 Dr. John Gray | Wellness In Relationships: Testosterone, Estrogen, Semen Retention & Sexual Polarity
- Why foolishness is knowing what to do but not having the strength of character to follow through.
[01:05:50] What's Stopping You From Excellence?
- Why Chris believes he hasn't had enough joy in his life.
- Letting go of old stories and methods.
- How he separates business and family.
- Tim Ferriss
- Why you shouldn't make compromises if you want to have it all.
- Wild Wild Country
- Why forgiveness is a step forward.
- How speaking in the future tense can ease an argument.
- 548 Dr. Stan Tatkin | Healing Toxic Relationships: What’s The Bite That Fits Each Other’s Wounds?
[01:26:05] Plant Medicine + Keeping The Closeness of Death
- The importance of knowing everything will go away eventually.
- How we see the world through a lens.
- Chris' experience with ayahuasca and the message he received.
- Why we need to create heuristics to create meaning of love.
- His first experience with death and how it impacted him.
- How keeping death close makes us show up best in the world.
- We will be forgotten in the future which is a good thing.
Power Quotes From The Show
What Do You Do on Daily Basis to Achieve Your Dreams?
“Show me your calendar. I want to see what you do on a daily basis because that will tell me what you're actually putting your time, attention, energy, and resources towards. Show me your bank account statement. That will show me what you're putting your time, energy, effort, and resources towards as well.” – Christopher Dufey
If I love Myself…
“The question that I ask myself frequently is, “If I love myself, would I…” If I love myself, will I go to the gym today? If I love myself, will I read this book rather than watch Netflix? The “if” takes the hardness that could stop us from, “Do I actually love myself?” Which is obviously a journey that we need to be able to go on.”- Christopher Dufey
Work Hard Towards Your Goals
“If you're working really hard towards something, at some point, you've got to push harder. You've got to go past that breaking point and make it happen. Other times, put it down and change directions. It's just not the right thing for you to do.” – Christopher Dufey
The Closeness of Death
“What I took from this world is the fragility of life and how I could be snatched from this at any moment. We need to keep the closeness of death with us so that we can then best show up into this world.” – Christopher Dufey
Links From Today's Show
- Christopher Dufey
- 512 Alison Armstrong: Unconscious Emasculation, What Women Don’t Understand About Men + How To Get The Love You Want
- 369 Paul Chek | All Is God: Three Part Series
- 438 Justin Donald | Why Wellness Is A Pentagon: The Art of Financial Intelligence & Lifestyle Investing
- Mimetic theory
- 386 Mark Groves | Create More Love: How To Deal w/ Breakups, Boundaries, & Beyond
- 482 Dave Asprey | Advanced Biohacking For Body Mind & Spirit: How To Train A Healthy Brain, Boost Your Flow State + Remove False Beliefs
- 311 Mark Wolynn | It Didn’t Start With You: Ending The Cycle of Inherited Trauma
- 528 Vanessa Lambert | Clear Karma, Find Dharma: The Healing Power of Kundalini Yoga + Akashic Records
- On Bullshit by Harry Frankfurt
- The Brain Always Wins: Improving Your Life Through Better Brain Management by John Sullivan
- 435 Dr. John Gray | Wellness In Relationships: Testosterone, Estrogen, Semen Retention & Sexual Polarity
- Tim Ferriss
- Wild Wild Country
- 548 Dr. Stan Tatkin | Healing Toxic Relationships: What’s The Bite That Fits Each Other’s Wounds?
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About Chris Dufey
Chris Dufey is an entrepreneur, author, speaker, filmmaker, and health nut.
Currently living between Bali and Australia with his 4 daughters and wife, he is the Founder and CEO of Coaches Cartel along with a small portfolio of businesses, and is obsessed with helping coaches grow their dream businesses and lives.
Recently recognized as a “Top Young Entrepreneur In Dubai” and published in online and print publications, being named a “business titan” by Entrepreneur, and showcased in many top podcasts. Chris is the creator of The Chris Dufey Podcast (duh), has authored 3 books, and with an upcoming documentary film.
Chris is known to be a world-class strategist and business coach, that has a surprising spiritual side, with a knack for helping his clients earn more money, impact more people, and live with freedom whilst doing the work they love.
