There is no one-size-fits-all approach to parenting, and what works for one family may not be right for another. However, some parenting styles are particularly unhelpful when raising a child with autism. Here are eleven of the most damaging ones.
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The Tiger Mom
The Tiger Mom is a parenting style characterized by high expectations, strict rules, and a lack of empathy. This approach can be especially harmful to children with autism, who may already feel like they are not meeting their parents' expectations.
The Free-Range Parent
The Free-Range Parent is the opposite of the Tiger Mom. This parenting style is characterized by a hands-off approach and a lack of structure. While this may work for some children, it can be confusing and overwhelming for children with autism, who thrive on routine and predictability.
The Helicopter Parent
The Helicopter Parent hovers over their child, constantly monitoring their every move. This type of parenting can be suffocating for any child, but it can be especially detrimental for children with autism, who may already feel like they are under a lot of pressure.
The Lawnmower Parent
The Lawnmower Parent clears all obstacles out of their child's path. This type of parenting can prevent children from learning how to cope with setbacks and overcome challenges.
The Authoritarian Parent
The Authoritarian Parent uses a top-down approach to parenting, with a strict set of rules that must be followed. This parenting style can be very rigid and inflexible, which can be stressful for children with autism, who may already struggle with following rules.
The Permissive Parent
The Permissive Parent allows their child to do whatever they want, without any rules or boundaries. This type of parenting can make children feel chaotic and out of control.
The Neglectful Parent
The Neglectful Parent does not provide their child with the love and attention they need. This type of parenting can be extremely harmful to any child, but it can be especially damaging for children with autism, who often crave affection and attention.
The Smothering Parent
The Smothering Parent is extremely overprotective of their child. This type of parenting can make children feel suffocated and unable to feel independent.
The Uninvolved Parent
Such parents do not take an active role in their child's life. This type of parenting can be extremely harmful to any child, but it can be especially damaging for children with autism, who often crave affection and attention.
The Competitor Parent
The Competitor Parent sees their child as a reflection of themselves and their own success. This type of parenting can be very stressful for children with autism, who may already feel like they are not meeting their parents' expectations.
The Frenetic Parent
The Frenetic Parent is always on the go, with a chaotic and hectic lifestyle. This type of parenting can be very overwhelming for children with autism, who often thrive on routine and predictability.
What Can You Do Instead as a Parent of an Autistic Child
As a responsible parent, consider the needs of your autistic child before anything else. Be understanding and do not put too much pressure on them. Develop a parenting style based on empathy, respect, and understanding. Make sure your child with autism goes through ABA therapy techniques to improve their condition.
Final Word
Parenting is one of the most difficult jobs, and there is no one-size-fits-all approach. However, some parenting styles can be harmful for children with autism. If you are a parent of a child with autism, it is important to be aware of these styles and avoid them.
